That LOVE thing again.

This one is for the ladies. But I am certain some guy out there will benefit from it. I want I want I want I want hehehehe. Sorry gents. Bear with us.

“A man who can't think straight when he hasn't heard my voice all day and can't sleep if I aint on his side, yep, that's what I want. I don't want logic in my "love", I want passion. I want an all or nothing relationship, without secrets, power struggles or games.” –that Tyler Perry movie

I don't want to squat in it but be kept on my toes in it. I want to grow, be told I'm wrong and then accepted that I have flaws I can overcome. I want to invest my time and energy in learning who he is, why he is that way, sit through his struggles and cheer lead him to his victories. He will be my confidante but not my completion, my complement not my everything. I want to believe we can get through the toughest moments and that when I cry, it’s not going to send him running but he will man up and stay because he deems it or me worthy. 

 I want this because I feel ready to dive into the risk. I've allowed myself to dwell in the "I don’t trust anyone, my heart has been broken" seat, but now I'm willing to lay myself on the chopping  board and trust that anything is possible yet wish for the best.

 

 As cliché as this may sound, I'm on that " I dare u to let me be your one and only, promise I'm worth to hold in your arms so give me a chance to prove I am the one who can walk that mile....until the end, I know it aint easy and nobody is perfect" tip.

I want to invest faith in him. I don't want to settle for anything less than my best friend-wrestling-partner-dance-mate-gym-partner level relationship. I want to find a trampoline and do crazy splits on it with him. I want to explore foreign cuisine with him, write a rap song lol and perform it. I want to explore his fears and mine, as if they aren't fears, challenge the norm.

 I don't want to find comfort in us but in the thrill of knowing I belong as an original, and I want him to know, with both our past mistakes, being with him is all that matters. I want him to understand that anything can happen if we just take the chance.

 

 I want to motivate him, shake him up. Be free! A start of something new.

Sandra Refilwe Sello Maphoto.